Monday, February 9, 2015

Does This Ring Make Me Look Engaged?


You read it right Frockers. Yours truly is apparently going to tie the knot! I know, I didn't see it coming either. Which is weird cause I was the one who proposed....

I never really understood marriage, as in, what is the point? Especially in a place like Quebec where the common-law rights are almost identical to the married ones. But one cold and dreary November evening, I was sitting at my desk, hard at work solving stats problems (or that is what I choose to remember) when it kind of just hit me. The older I was getting, the more I saw of the world and people, the more I realized how lucky I am. I didn't always "get" people, and they didn't always get me. But I had someone and we got each other. Kyler makes me smarter, he's always game for anything, and truth be told, there's no one I'd rather do most things with. I mean he's pretty much the only person I can stand travelling with. And you know you really like someone when you can travel with them and not want to kill them. So, I just decided as we sat there on the couch, to butcher one of my favourite Aziz Ansari jokes about marriage and ask "do you want to hang out with me forever?"

Spoiler alert! He said yes.

 You could say I'm a little impulsive when it comes to my feelings. Marriage just suddenly made way more sense to me and literally the day after this realization, I popped the question while in my PJs. Which by the way, mad respect for all the dudes (and ladies) out there who decide to propose cause even though I hadn't planned anything crazy, I was so nervous and sweaty. It was like giving a presentation in front of hundreds of people. In French. Proposing is hard y'all!

Anyway, I'm not really one to believe in true love or soul mates or dream about some kind of princess wedding. Don't get me wrong, I believe in love and falling in love, but I think something as pragmatic as a relationship and especially marriage, is about making a decision to be together and working hard to, well, make it work. And I really believe that in order to make it work, we need to be fully-formed beings who together, make some kind of super-human-mega-ultra person who is good at deciphering computer mumbo-jumbo, juggling knives, putting together any outfit AND writing insanely good internet copy. It's like we're already awesome Power Rangers but we're about to transform into that big robot thing they have. You know the one I mean. I forget the name.

I mean life can be rough sometimes. Many a late night at the office, nervous breakdowns, algebra problems I couldn't remember how to solve from my high-school math (how do you isolate an exponent???), and getting lost while only two blocks from our hostel in Prague, made me really realize why people don't want to go it alone in life. The world is big and complicated and having a real partner in life, who's always there for you, not only makes it so much easier to wade through the madness, but more fun too! And sure, we are already together and committed, but suddenly instead of uncertainty, there was a clarity in saying "Hey, I've never met anyone I like more. I can really see this going on for a while...."

Long story short, I liked it, so I put a ring on it. Metaphorically-speaking.

                                                            

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